You know you have an anxious attachment, maybe you just found out or you’ve known for a long time. Feeling anxious in your relationships has become normal for you, maybe it’s even comfortable. In some moments, it might feel scary to start to feel “comfortable” in your relationship because you’re certain that the ball is going to drop eventually.

You’ve been in relationships like this before, and they always end the same way.

Do you wonder if there is something about you that pushes them away? Maybe it’s that you love to spend time with them and get nervous when they want time away. You can’t help but feel jealous when your partner is talking to someone else. You try to not say anything because you know it’s going to make them mad, but you just can’t hold it in any longer! Then, when you share how you’re feeling, they shut down and you don’t know what to do. They might have even called you needy or clingy. My friend, this is all your anxious attachment.

Did you know there are ways to heal your anxious attachment and move towards security?

When you become more secure in yourself, your friendships, and your relationships, you’re able to recognize your own needs and find ways to fulfill them outside of your relationship. You can recognize your worth and become more confident. And most important, when you move towards security, you stop the cycle of relationships and start building the healthy one you’ve been wanting.